I'm not where I want to be

We all have to do things in life that we don't want to do. Some of us have to undertake more of what we loathe than others to get to where we want and we also cannot change the basic hand that has been dealt to us.

I often find myself thinking that I’m not where I want to be. I’m not at the top of my career or have the physique I want and I don’t have a house or live in my preferred area. At the same time I can find myself comparing my progress with others. In reality though, we can’t have everything we want at the click of our fingers. Not everyone gets given inheritance or the same metabolism and not everyone starts at the same band braket or gets a choice in where they can live. It’s all about making the best of your situation and trying to be the best you can be at the time.

I was once told to look at things as boxes. If you cannot change the situation, then put it in a box. There is no point wasting energy on something that won’t change no matter how hard you try. If you can change it, then action something. There’s no point in complaining about something that you can change. Of course this is easier said than done, because emotions are often hard to regulate, but it does simplify a situation. In the same way that the past is the past and there is nothing you can do to change it so don’t continue to use your energy from today, on that...again, easier said than done.

Sometimes we have to experience things that we don’t want to get to where we want in the end. Whether that be doing a job or training that you’re not keen on or working overtime to save for that house. Unfortunately it’s a part of life and the sooner that can be understood that there is no other potential outcome, the less stress that you will put on yourself. We don’t all start at the same start line and your progress will be different to the next persons and that’s ok. You wouldn’t want to live exactly like them anyway!

In reality, all we have is now. The past has gone and the future doesn’t exist. We all plan for things that have varying factors that could change the state of play. What we can do however, is put our most into the things we can change now in order to affect any future outcomes and enjoy what we have. Once upon a time you probably dreamt of what you have now. You may not be where you want to be, but if you can honestly say you are trying your best to get to where you want, then you’re on the right track.

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No matter what stage we’re at in our life, anxiety can take a toll on us. It can cause fear, nausea, fatigue, and much more.

Because of the severity of anxiety, a lot of us are constantly searching for ways to help with anxiety. One of the best ways to help deal with anxiety and relieve symptoms is with a Namaste weighted blanket.

These weighted blankets are designed in a way for people to deal with anxiety head-on. If you struggle with anxiety, then Namaste’s anxiety blanket is perfect for you.

Down below will take a closer at exactly how the blanket helps with anxiety. Let’s get started.

Serotonin

Serotonin is a chemical nerve that cells produce and its benefits include the ability to help calm the body. Namaste’s anxiety blanket helps the release of serotonin in the body. This factor allows the body to be more calm, cool and collected. Three factors that are important for the body during the difficult nature of dealing with anxiety. With an increase of serotonin, you’ll start to see the side effects of anxiety not be as severe. Although this isn’t a 100-percent solution, it’s definitely a start.

Helps Sleep

Part of the reason anxiety levels are high in certain people is due to how they sleep. Anxiety is often caused by a lack of sleep and restlessness. A weighted blanket like this has been proven to provide deeper sleep which will allow people to feel more rested. Theoretically causing them to feel stressed and anxious as a result. If you have anxiety and have trouble sleeping, then this blanket is a perfect two-way solution for you. We all know how important sleep is, especially for those who feel stressed or anxious. With this knowledge, why wait? Help your anxiety now by getting a namaste anxiety blanket.

Comfort

A big issue with anxiety is that it causes irritability. Irritability is something that makes it nearly impossible to feel comfortable. One of the best ways to fight anxiety is to try and feel comfortable. With this in mind, a Namaste weighted blanket guarantees you that you’ll feel more comfortable. Once you feel more comfortable, you’ll start to deal with symptoms of anxiety better and eventually get to where you want to be.

Deep Pressure

The main reason a Namaste weighted blanket has this positive effect on people has to do with the deep pressure effect of it. The deep pressure effect of it has been studied and linked to being the source of calming the nerves, promoting sleep, and helping people come down from anxious episodes. If you struggle with anxiety and have a hard time dealing with, the deep pressure sensation a weighted blanket gives you will certainly help.

Where You Can Buy One

Besides anxiety relief, there are countless benefits to a weighted blanket. If you’re interested in a weighted blanket, or more importantly Namaste’s anxiety blanket, look no further. Click here to grab your weighted anxiety blanket.

Prose

It hurts,
It just hurts,
And there's no other way to describe it anymore,
I'm too tired and can't think straight,
I just want to be at peace because years is a long time to be sad,
And pain is an awful familiarity.

But there can be lightbulb moments,
When a connection is strong,
And it doesn't matter how long.

I'm stuck in a world of anguish,
Where my energy is used on my breath,
And only the answers,
Can come from inside,
But I'm floating between black and white,
My feet never touching the ground.

I just hope that I can wake up,
Feeling a rush of dopamine,
Because its been a while,
When I've lost so much,
And opportunities are scarce when past becomes present.

In twenty years time will I still feel this way
Will I wonder what you're doing,
And where you'll be,
Will I have made a good decision
Or will I still feel dead to the world
with the memories alive

I wonder how it can be
And I thank you for meeting me
that I feel like I've known you all my life
because strangely it means the world
and stories haven't even been told

I'm lost,
and now you too,
My choices have power,
But I have little to give,
All I want is to be embraced,
And be told I will be ok.

Now is all I have
And I can change
And that presents strength
I hope you can do the same

Forgiveness is key
For complexity
And maybe one day I will sit to smell the flowers
With the biggest smile
And I too will bloom,
Apart,
Or alongside you.

Pain and addiction

Pain and addiction often come hand in hand. You often hear of those whom have been through trauma turning to drugs, alcohol or some other outlet. Some people just use some of these outlets occasionally and never fully get addicted and how we react as induviduals can be down to a range of factors.

Another way we can often deal with situations that might involve pain and trauma is through avoidance. We know how to physically avoid danger, but what about mentally? If we’ve been through something that was mentally tough, we’re not likely to want to experience it again and I feel the most complex situation we face with pain and addiction is when we involve love in its various forms. This is why I often feel people may avoid relationships, friendships and family relations after getting hurt or still not being over someone to avoid pain and to stop any addiction from occurring (after all, people say love is a drug!) 

I can relate to this issue immensly. If you avoid any situation relating to pain then you can’t get hurt, but at the same you can’t enjoy everything it has to offer. As I’ve mentioned previously I believe this to have come from my childhood, but also more recent experiences and struggling to move forward. Even if you try to strike a compromise between the two then you may not get hurt as much, but you may not still experience everything to it’s fullest.

The best way to resolve the situation between pain and addiction is to understand why you are reacting in the way that you are. You need to identify the problem before looking at a solution. If the problem cannot be solved quickly, then it’s best to be black and white and explain to those around you what the status quo is for you. That way there will be less pressure on you to get led by something you’re not comfortable in doing. It’s a tricky ground to navigate when you don’t feel fully healed yourself, but it’s important to make it clear.

It’s important to also remember that addiction can become dangerous very quickly too, which is why you should review your actions on a regular basis and understand why you are addicted to a specific thing and whether it is good or bad. Actions can also be dangerous when dealing with pain because you may be more vulnerable than you would be otherwise. It’s important to deal with the problem head on, because once you have an addiction, it can be hard to get out of, whether that be drugs, alcohol, toxic friendships or relationships.

Take time to understand yourself. Inform others and although your actions might not be as clear as you’d like and you might make mistakes, you’ve laid the ground to work on yourself and given others the chance to understand and accept. Perhaps in time pain and addiction might not be such an issue due to progress you will make. In reality we can never really fully avoid it. It is all part of the the tapestry of life, it may just take time for you to work through it and that’s ok. No one person should rush you through it.

The invisible illness

Trigger warning: mention of suicide and self harm.

Otherwise known as the invisible illness, something that cannot be seen and therefore cannot be believed, mental illness is the secret in disguise.

It is the thing that people are beginning to talk about, but still only one person really understands and that person is, you.

When sitting in a classroom or at a desk at work, you're hiding the bandage on your wrist covered by your long sleeves. No one would know what happened in your bedroom half an hour earlier with that bright smile on your face.

An awkward joke of suicide and people would say 'of course you would've mentioned a suicide attempt because no one would turn up to work the next day having tried to jump off a chair with a dressing gown rope around their neck at 10:59pm the night before.'

Because someone who is still sending text messages and picking up your calls can put as many emoticons as they like and filtered pictures on instagram, to build a false picture.

It's trying to describe exactly what it is like to live with mental illness and there not being words to encompass it.

It's everyone talking hot air because it's the latest topic and trend, but some don't mean anything by it. But some are also making massive positive change.

It's feeling completely detached in a room full of people and acomplishing things that others already have and feeling as if you've had to climb a mountain to get there and they've only had to walk up a hill. It's worth so much more.

People saying that there is nothing to be depressed about and life could be so much worse...yes I know. Of course I choose to have moments of pain.

It's...invisible. It's hidden. But the symptoms are real and you see them every day.

Ask, talk and help until you believe, because it is very much believable when they are no longer here.